Springtime often inspires us to declutter our home and exposes the cobwebs and dust that has been collecting during the winter months. It’s a good time to consider cleaning out our mental and emotional spaces: our thoughts and feelings.
Just as it feels good to walk into an organized closet or enjoy a sparkling hardwood floor, a mental spring-cleaning can provide a boost and a sense of relief and accomplishment. Here’s a mental and emotional spring-cleaning checklist to help you get started!
Cultivate Quiet Time Plan some alone time to take an internal inventory and identify what has been cluttering your heart and mind. Meditation, prayer, hiking and and yoga are excellent examples of external acts that promote internal reflection and allow time to tune in to your inner world. Take a planned break from technology and spend time visualizing how you want to feel in your life and in your relationships.
Jot It in a Journal Putting pen to paper and identifying your thoughts and emotions helps clear out your emotional space, make emotions seem more manageable and gives you a different perspective. You may not realize how cluttered your insides have become until you start articulating them.
Emotions are “energy in motion” and they are designed to move through you, not to stay stuck in your body. Next time you feel emotionally burden write it down. In my therapy practice.
Give Up a Grudge Releasing your grip on a gripe can free up emotional energy that you can then invest in other, more positive areas of your life. I’ve heard it said that holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. While having a range of emotions, including anger and hurt, is normal, letting those feelings take up permanent residence in your heart ultimately hurts you.
Forgive Your Faults Often, it is easier to overlook other’s faults than it is to let go of your own shortcomings. Over time it’s easy to collect evidence for negative self-evaluations like, “I am never good enough” or “I’m always putting my foot in my mouth” or “See! I’m not good at relationships.” Dwelling on your past mistakes or clutters the present and leads to self-critical thoughts and feelings. Humans aren’t inspired to do better by criticism, and this applies to self-criticism. How freeing it is to acknowledge that you will make mistakes and have weaknesses as a human, but that it is possible to learn from personal experiences and still maintain a sense of self-acceptance.
Tell Your Truth A willingness to be emotionally honest with those we love can deepen our connections and allow our loved ones to offer support and encouragement to us. If you are afraid that being more emotionally honest in your relationships will hurt them, think again. Not sharing your truth for long periods of time leads to emotional build up that eventually erupts, causing further breakdowns in communication and relationship break-ups. The emotional eruption does far more damage to relationships than speaking your truth all along the way